Can I talk sex without getting booted off this free web page hosting site? It's worth talking about. In many ways, it's the one thing that we just don't have any real control over. Sexual attraction is a biological reaction. We try to think pure thoughts, stay on the morally correct path. But we desire pleasure. We find it in food, drink, smoke. And sex. Our bodies desire sex. Sex is so many things to so many people. Let me narrow it down, and talk about sex between men and women. You can be going along, minding your business, and see someone that is very attractive to you.
Here's a casual situation. We have all been there. I see a very good looking woman as I am walking down a street. If I see her up ahead, and she is coming this way, I don't stare, but I do plan to look at her again as she passes me, because I like the way she looks. It's that simple. At this point in my life, I am not "in the market" for anyone, and even if I was single, I have never been the cheesey type to think that staring a woman down, or saying "Hey baby" is really going to lead somewhere. Then again, how do people meet? Even in these modern times it's usually up to the man to approach and roll the dice of rejection. But for me, I figure I may never see this woman again in my life. This is even more reason to make this glance count. Whether male and female, don't we all appreciate beauty?
But now let's back it up and do it again. This time, as I look ahead and see her, she also sees me, our eyes meet. Now, the sister is on alert, and she is looking at the wall, at the floor, anywhere but at me as we pass, even if we are the only ones in a hallway or on a sidewalk. She's bracing herself for some disrepecting comment or at least, for some leering look that is just as bad. It shouldn't be like that. Sometimes I just don't even look, just because it seems so expected. Sex is everywhere.
This is the model, Avonte:
In a recent magazine issue, a list was assembled of what they thought is the 10 sexiest women. Number one was Hallie Berry, and number ten was Lela Rochon. Someone I feel was given a short was Vivica Fox. Oh she made the list. I dont care for the necessity to rank them, but Vivica came in forth, behind Hallie, Tyra, and Lisa Raye, of "Players Club" fame. Somebody call a cop! We wuz robbed! No, seriously, I just like Vivica's style. The hardest thing to do is comedy, and she has been very funny in some otherwise lame movies, like BOOTY CALL. SET IT OFF, SOUL FOOD, and WHY DO FOOLS FALL IN LOVE further showcased her versatility. She seems real, relaxed, and believable in every role she's had (well, except for Batman Forever). But is she sexy?
It's not enough that we just listen to their music. The singer has to also be a vision of sexual fantasy:
And every other product we buy is portrayed as making us more attractive. Sex is not without consequence. Like anger, it must be controlled, be channel into appropriate expression. THIS is where so many get into trouble. (Under Construction)
I liked the movie "Soul Food". It was an honest look at family,with all it's strengths and faults. And although I thought the sex senario, where one of the husbands cheat with his wife's cousin, was totally out of place, I must say this: It was one of the best portrayals of how sex sneaks up on you, and can lead to actions you regret later. Okay, maybe it didn't exactly SNEAK up.
From the moment she appeared, the wayward cousin in Soul Food was pegged as trouble by the women in the family. The actress that played her did it well. She reminded us of the sexiness that some women excude without even trying. That free-spirit easiness that leads to as much trouble as it does to fun. The way they lead up to her quickie with the actor Michael Beach's character was a classic look at sex getting out of control:
She comes up to the studio after him, and from the second she comes through the door, we know it's on! The scene was brief, but inappropriate for children, and since so much of Soul Food was so good for families to see, it makes for an uncomfortable few minutes. But the scene itself illustrates the power of raw, sexual attraction. The forbidden fruit aspect, knowing it's breaking moral rules, adds to the heat. Those of us watching that weren't dead silent in the theater, were going uh, uh, uh.... knowing that they were going to get busy, regardless of the consequences.
The film did well to show the way the passion climaxed, and the way they slowly sank away in shame. Michael Beach is particularly good at facial expressions. That look of helplessness as she approached him at the piano... I can't think of another actor who could have been as on portraying that vunerability. He seems to take on those uncomfortable roles, being the man that does his woman wrong, as in the TV show, E.R.
Oh, and sex was thrown in with humor in the very beginning of Soul Food:
The family's women were about to kick some hoochie butt before the mama of the family cooled the situation out.